SMP LeaderTalks

#68 | The drug of a narcissist

SMP LeaderTalks

16. October 2024

Georgiy Michailov meets Dr. T. Pablo Hagemeyer

On manipulation as an art form, self-sabotage and the dark triad.

1 h 19 Min

"Narcissistic people need recognition like others need air to breathe."

We all long for recognition - but what if this need determines your whole life? Many of us know the feeling of sometimes thinking too much about ourselves or struggling to be seen. But for some, these thought patterns become a constant companion. We are talking about narcissists.

"The brain is a suggestion machine. But I don't have to accept everyone."

According to our guest, when emotions such as anger and insecurity gain the upper hand, it can lead to a disastrous cycle of self-sabotage. In this SMP LeaderTalks episode, Dr. T. Pablo Hagemeyer explains why this is the case and how you can free yourself from it. Because Hagemeyer knows more about narcissism than almost anyone else: he is a psychiatrist, therapist and author. And he has been dealing with the deep psychological mechanisms of personality disorders for many years.

"I teach my patients to decouple their self-esteem from external validations."

In conversation with Georgiy Michailov, Hagemeyer provides fascinating insights into the origins and differences between the various forms of narcissism and explains how it is possible to break free from self-destructive patterns. You will also learn more about the psychological effects of recognition and rejection. Why narcissists are often so successful in management positions. And how to practice radical acceptance in order to strengthen your self-esteem.

*Video only in German

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